Start your review of Even Happier: A Gratitude Journal for Daily Joy and Lasting Fulfillment Write a review Jul 30, Brett Blair rated it it was amazing A fantastic, easy-to-read and apply overview of positive psychology applications, each supported by research, to increase pleasure and meaning in our lives. I highly recommend this book! Feb 28, Katie rated it really liked it This is wonderful I started doing this on my own, and was discussing with my hubby. We have "weekly check-ins" where we go over family items, dicuss where things are at with the kids, how things feel in our home, how we are feeling personally and as a couple, and what we currently need from one another.
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Topics include happiness, self-esteem, empathy, friendship, love, achievement, creativity, music, spirituality, and humor. I know I would have. So now we all have access to his lectures at Harvard. While psychology has traditionally concerned itself with what ails the human mind—such as anxiety, depression, neurosis, obsessions, paranoia, and delusions—, Dr. This rapidly growing field is shedding light on what makes us happy, the pursuit of happiness, and how we can lead more fulfilling, satisfying lives.
Ben-Shahar is well known around the world for his work in positive psychology. Eleven Happiness Tips From Dr. Ask yourself questions to foster awareness about what actions and attitudes will make you happier. Happiness must combine both pleasure and meaning, providing both present and future gain. To further illustrate this point, Ben-Shahar uses a hamburger analogy. He explains how certain things, like an unhealthy but tasty hamburger, will bring immediate short-term pleasure but have the opposite effect on our long-term feelings.
Too often people bounce back and forth between these two without finding out what things in their lives can bring both immediate and long-term happiness; that is, a meal that is both tasty and healthy. Ben-Shahar argues in his book that happiness is not an end state, but rather something you work towards your whole life.
Thus, you can be happier each day. Even happiness is a journey, not a destination. Build happiness boosters into your life.
These are things which you enjoy doing, and can include things such as having lunch with your spouse, reading a good book, taking a warm bath, engaging in a hobby you enjoy, and so on. Create rituals. Paradoxically, the routine frees them up to be creative and spontaneous.
Every evening since September 19 , religiously, Ben-Shahar has made a list in a notebook of five things for which he feels grateful. Imagine yourself as years old. What advice would you give your younger self? This added perspective will allow you to recognize and eliminate the trivial and negative things from your life. Allow yourself to feel the full range of emotions, including fear, sadness, or anxiety. Ben-Shahar advises that an expectation of constant happiness is unreasonable and sets us up for disappointment.
A happy life will have the usual vicissitudes, and trying to avoid those, or hoping not to experience them, inevitably leads to unhappiness and frustration. A happy person has highs and lows, but their overall state of being is positive. People who take on too much experience time poverty, which inhibits their ability to derive happiness from any of the activities they participate in.
Remember the mind-body connection. Regular exercise, adequate sleep, and healthy eating habits lead to both physical and mental health. Keep in mind that happiness is mostly dependent on your state of mind. Barring extreme circumstances, our level of well being is determined by what we choose to focus on and by our interpretation of external events.
Consider happiness to be the ultimate currency. Four Basic Archetypes Dr. These are the following: 1. These people believe that they can sustain happiness by going from pleasurable activity to pleasurable activity with complete disregard for any future meaning or purpose.
Rat Race. These people are on the opposite end of the spectrum: they postpone present happiness in order to be happy in the future. They believe that reaching a certain destination will lead to sustained happiness. Nihilism: These people believe that no matter what they do they will not be able to attain happiness. Basically, these are the ones that have lost all hope of being happy.
As stated previously, happiness requires that we live for both today and tomorrow. How to Find Work Which Makes You Happy People experience their work in one of three ways: as a job—a chore done so you can pay your bills—, as a career—motivated by money, prestige, and advancement—,or as a calling.
A calling is work done as an end in and of itself. This is why most people end up with a job or a career instead of a calling. Conclusion You can watch Dr. They experience life as more or less a series of chores that they have to carry out rather than activities that they want to engage in. Related Posts:.
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